What's the difference between this and the other mainstream self help I have done?
Letting go address the root core of the issue, so that it can be run out. It is about getting rid of the problem altogether rather than living in reaction to it. A lot of self help it can be noticed comes from the viewpoint of 'I am not good enough now, and need to do add something to make myself better'. It is about adding things to achieve a state of happiness. Letting go on the other hand takes a different approach. The theory is that happiness is intrinsic as part of our nature, it has just been obscured by the repressed emotions and programs. It is about removing the pain that is keeping you from experiencing the happiness or peace now without anything added. From that place than you are free to pursue whatever goals you want from a more detached place.
Is letting go easy?
One of the common problems that comes up for people learning this is the fact that it is so simple. Beliefs come up like 'you can't get something for nothing' or people get stuck believing they have to do something with the emotion. When really the technique is as simple as allowing the repressed feelings without trying to change them. In terms of when actually doing the technique it can at times be difficult. The catch is that painful feelings will have to surface depending on the person. Whatever has been repressed must come up, which means painful unresolved emotions will have to be experienced. Sometimes things can clear up in a few minutes, other times emotions that are long standing or have been there for your entire life may take longer or recur for a while. It is always less painful in the long run to experience emotions out, as if they are not they will frequently come up anyway and get worse, as the repressed emotion needs to find an outlet. The results from letting go are also exponential and well worth the temporary pain that may have to be integrated.
Can't I just learn this by myself?
Yes it is possible to learn this by yourself if you are committed (see my recommended book list for more resources) coaching however drastically speeds up the process and is often the difference between someone sticking with it or getting dissuaded and quitting letting go. In my life it was only through myself receiving coaching that I was able to get the greatest benefit. This is due to a couple of reasons.
- Sometimes an emotion is not there for the reason we think. A part of my coaching is inquiry which reveals the layers underneath a certain recurring emotion or pattern. People are often shocked to find out things like that they are secretly enjoying the negative emotions, are that it is for a completely different reason than they suspected.
- The mind often resists change even positive change and puts up traps such as confusion, excuses and reasons to hang on, which are hard to transcend by yourself. Because of this attempts to let go can often get distracted and lead to endless thoughts and procrastination about an issue without actually letting go of it. There are times I know I would have spent years stumbling around because of things I was unable to see or had repressed in myself that were thankfully brought up by a mentor. Letting go is really letting go of old parts of the psyche that are outdated but have kept it alive so far, as such the mind does not want to let these programs go and actively resists it. The ego/mind that clings to this does not have the best interests at heart, people have literally died because their mind was unable to give up an old pattern.
- Having someone on the phone with you as you let go makes it harder to bullshit yourself or get caught in thinking about the emotion which is another form of resistance. One thing to remember is that the majority of people don't let go and carry emotional baggage their entire lives. This is partly because the nature of the mind itself and it's want to resist or do something with the feelings leads to this. In a sense when letting go you are going against the nature of the mind itself, which wants to resist figure out and get rid of problems. The help of a coach is essential in this, as the mind can not be used effectively to let go.
How many sessions do I need?
For most people weekly calls would be ideal. Others may do monthly or even just call as certain emotions come up they want help with. Eventually however a stage will be reached were letting go is automatic and self reinforcing at this point help may no longer be required.
How do I know it will work?
Letting go as an actual function of the mind and is a principle that applies to every human being, it's just a matter of using it. It's something that's best experienced to be believed, normally by the end of a call people feel immediately lighter or happier. Also remember you have a money back guarantee on each call if you are not satisfied for any reason.
Letting go address the root core of the issue, so that it can be run out. It is about getting rid of the problem altogether rather than living in reaction to it. A lot of self help it can be noticed comes from the viewpoint of 'I am not good enough now, and need to do add something to make myself better'. It is about adding things to achieve a state of happiness. Letting go on the other hand takes a different approach. The theory is that happiness is intrinsic as part of our nature, it has just been obscured by the repressed emotions and programs. It is about removing the pain that is keeping you from experiencing the happiness or peace now without anything added. From that place than you are free to pursue whatever goals you want from a more detached place.
Is letting go easy?
One of the common problems that comes up for people learning this is the fact that it is so simple. Beliefs come up like 'you can't get something for nothing' or people get stuck believing they have to do something with the emotion. When really the technique is as simple as allowing the repressed feelings without trying to change them. In terms of when actually doing the technique it can at times be difficult. The catch is that painful feelings will have to surface depending on the person. Whatever has been repressed must come up, which means painful unresolved emotions will have to be experienced. Sometimes things can clear up in a few minutes, other times emotions that are long standing or have been there for your entire life may take longer or recur for a while. It is always less painful in the long run to experience emotions out, as if they are not they will frequently come up anyway and get worse, as the repressed emotion needs to find an outlet. The results from letting go are also exponential and well worth the temporary pain that may have to be integrated.
Can't I just learn this by myself?
Yes it is possible to learn this by yourself if you are committed (see my recommended book list for more resources) coaching however drastically speeds up the process and is often the difference between someone sticking with it or getting dissuaded and quitting letting go. In my life it was only through myself receiving coaching that I was able to get the greatest benefit. This is due to a couple of reasons.
- Sometimes an emotion is not there for the reason we think. A part of my coaching is inquiry which reveals the layers underneath a certain recurring emotion or pattern. People are often shocked to find out things like that they are secretly enjoying the negative emotions, are that it is for a completely different reason than they suspected.
- The mind often resists change even positive change and puts up traps such as confusion, excuses and reasons to hang on, which are hard to transcend by yourself. Because of this attempts to let go can often get distracted and lead to endless thoughts and procrastination about an issue without actually letting go of it. There are times I know I would have spent years stumbling around because of things I was unable to see or had repressed in myself that were thankfully brought up by a mentor. Letting go is really letting go of old parts of the psyche that are outdated but have kept it alive so far, as such the mind does not want to let these programs go and actively resists it. The ego/mind that clings to this does not have the best interests at heart, people have literally died because their mind was unable to give up an old pattern.
- Having someone on the phone with you as you let go makes it harder to bullshit yourself or get caught in thinking about the emotion which is another form of resistance. One thing to remember is that the majority of people don't let go and carry emotional baggage their entire lives. This is partly because the nature of the mind itself and it's want to resist or do something with the feelings leads to this. In a sense when letting go you are going against the nature of the mind itself, which wants to resist figure out and get rid of problems. The help of a coach is essential in this, as the mind can not be used effectively to let go.
How many sessions do I need?
For most people weekly calls would be ideal. Others may do monthly or even just call as certain emotions come up they want help with. Eventually however a stage will be reached were letting go is automatic and self reinforcing at this point help may no longer be required.
How do I know it will work?
Letting go as an actual function of the mind and is a principle that applies to every human being, it's just a matter of using it. It's something that's best experienced to be believed, normally by the end of a call people feel immediately lighter or happier. Also remember you have a money back guarantee on each call if you are not satisfied for any reason.